Birth:

I was born into the city of Southampton, county of Hampshire, on the South Coast of England in the United Kingdom of Great Britain on an early Thursday morning on the date of the fifth of July nineteen-eighty-four and with a half moon in the sky.

According to the Tropical Zodiac I am a 'Cancer'. However, due to movement of the stars over time the sun was actually passing through Gemini, which is my sign according to the Sidereal Zodiac.

Naturally, this tells you nothing about my personality as neither of the previous two paragraphs detail information that tells you anything about me as a person. That I saw fit to write them anyway probably does however. :o)

If you're looking for a short and simplistic summary of 'Who I am' then you'd best take your eyes away from the stars, and direct it at something like my Myers-Briggs Personality Type instead, in which case I'm an INTJ

Personality:

In brief; I'm a somewhat introverted little Goth-esque Geek boi. You can take 'Goth-esque' because I still think Goth should have it's fairly precise music-scene related usage.

Sometimes I'm fairly quiet: Truth is I often have little interest in 'small talk', and often I just don't 'click' with people and fail to entertain conversation. I'm also not very good in 'casual group situations'. Thus some people find me anything from quiet/shy to just plain cold.

Hit the right buttons then I can be actually rather loud and outspoken. I've known numerous people who on first impressions thought of me as extroverted, confident and outspoken, and were surprised when they find I'm not always like that with other people.

It all depends what side of me you catch :o)

I have a preference to spend my time around life-positive people who are not averse to enjoying themselves. I hate being depressive and when people spend their time determined to be miserable they not only make themselves feel worse but bring down the people around them. Hence I rarely seriously moan or whinge at people about my problems. If I am genuinely upset about something I'd rather everyone around me stayed in high spirits and having fun as that puts me back into a good mood. There's no shame in liking fun :o)

I am polyamorous

Fashion and Music:

As per the photos in my gallery I have a somewhat 'alternative aesthetic'. I'm not adverse to trying numerous fashion statements. I like crushed-velvet, PVC, and leather, but I'm able to find most styles aesthetically pleasing as long as the wearer takes an interest in their image and tries to be interesting. Oh, yes, I am indeed a bit effeminate and I do cross-dress, it's not something I think about too much, it's just image and clothes after all, what sensible person cares?

Music wise I like to enjoy a very wide range of music, I'd hate to limit myself. I'll listen to Goth and Post-Punk, but when I'm done listening to Siouxsie and The Banshees I'll happily turn on The Beatles, and then Led Zeppelin, all three of these bands have enjoyed periods of time where they were my favourite and I still listen to them now. I'm not much of a music elitist, though there are some genres I can't listen to personally (most rap music and death metal for instance...). I will not think highly of someone who decides to label themselves 'Goth', 'Punk', 'Metaller', or whatever, without actually knowing anything about the music genres that such a person is supposedly identifying with by labelling themselves such.

Life Offline:

I grew up in a council estate and attended an all-boys school, which made for an interesting if not always fun start to life, but at least it builds character :o) I really started to 'find myself' towards the end of school and I really enjoyed college; I just loved returning to an atmosphere where I could enjoy education again, which I hadn't experienced since I was a young child. I ended up spending four years there doing different A levels :o)

I went to University to study for a BA (Hons) in Philosophy. The atmosphere was rather different; no more cosy classrooms with intense discussion and more being lectured at by professors, but I could appreciate it none the less :o) A lot more middle-class brats about that wouldn't have made it through a working class school as well unfortunately.

I graduated with a 2.1 (Hons) qualification. It's not what I hoped for (I'm too arrogant to not get a first!) but it's respectable enough. I can make myself live with it :o)

I'm not all education though, I also love to dance and spend a fair amount of time at nightclubs and parties, and I can get a little restless if I been out at least once a week, though that does by necessity sometimes happen. I also enjoy a variety of games, including wargames, roleplay games, and the occasional board game :o)

Life Online:

I've been spending time online since a number of years before the millennium. At a guess I must have been fourteen perhaps, which makes my first log-in around 1997/1998, back when you had to dial up and pay per minute for the privilege.

The Internet had an odd place in my life. I was never a very social child, so I kept myself to myself, and was fairly wary of other people. The Internet has a very strange brand of communication where everyone is ultimately in control of their own social interactions. Online there was no pressure to say anything until you've thought about it and decided what you want to say, and avoiding and ending interactions you don't want to be in is very easy. More importantly, the vast expanse of the Internet means that it's very easy to meet the sorts of people that you might not be used to talking to in person, hence it very definitely filled a void.

I spent a lot of my early years on the Internet either talking to strangers on Instant Messengers who had listed similar interests to me, or on discussion/debate sites, where I was thrilled to find that people took me seriously and were interested in talking about the things I liked to talk about. The Internet quickly became a forum where I could express myself, the urge to do so is what was responsible for the creation of my first webpage where I would just write down my thoughts on various subjects. Obviously, looking back on what I wrote now can be slightly embarrassing :o)

These days the Internet still has an important part in my life. I've spread my image and self-descriptions over numerous profile sites to the extent where people whom I've never met will see me in clubs or in the street and ask me whether I'm the 'Wight' they've seen online. Thus it's helped me get into touch and form friendships with a lot of people whom I might never have met otherwise, such as friends in other cities like London. Sites such as livejournal allow me to share what's going on with my life and plan future events with my existing friends, which I find to be absolutely brilliant.

Obviously, I also get out and do things offline, which is half the point. I prefer the offline and online to blend together rather than remain separate, with people existing in both 'worlds'. I'll often not have much interest in getting to know online unless they are in the same nation as me, just because it seems important to me that there is this link between virtual and material reality.

And, of course, I still use it a lot to share and discuss my thoughts with other people. That happens sometimes in the offline world as well, but a lot of people aren't interested in intellectual discussion, and some issues are personal enough that they can lead to emotional unpleasantness. The online world allows us the option to talk in a depersonalised medium which is sometimes the best way to discuss certain matters.

Physical Description

Just because people tend to find this kind of information interesting

I'm five foot six inches tall, and I have blue eyes and my natural hair colour is a brown, though sometimes if the light catches it right then it has a red tint to it. I still dye my hair occasionally anyway though so it doesn't matter much I suppose. I have twenty-six piercings including thirteen on my right ear (including my tragus), ten on my left, rings in both nipples and in my naval.

I haven't gotten any tattoos yet because I want to be very careful about what to get. I have some friends drawing up possible designs for me, so whatever I do end up getting it will be personalised to me and no one else shall have it :o)

So now you know I suppose :o)